Joey Steur
Relationship therapist. Creator of the Heart-Head-Body method. Founder of Relove.
Joey Steur is a relationship therapist with years of experience working with couples who want to stay connected — not just in crisis, but in the everyday.
She noticed a pattern in her practice: most couples don't drift apart because of big fights. They drift apart because of a thousand small missed moments. No one asked. No one noticed. Life just moved too fast.
That insight became the foundation for everything she does.
The Heart-Head-Body Method
Joey developed the Heart-Head-Body check-in method as a practical tool for couples. Instead of asking "how was your day?" — which usually gets a one-word answer — the method guides partners to check in on three dimensions:
- HeartHow are you feeling emotionally? What emotions are present right now?
- HeadWhat's on your mind? What thoughts or worries are taking up space?
- BodyHow does your body feel? What's your energy level? Any physical tension?
Together, these three give a complete picture of how each partner is doing — and they create a natural opening for real conversation.
Why Daily Rituals
Research from the Gottman Institute consistently shows that relationships thrive not through grand gestures, but through small, frequent moments of attentiveness. Joey built her method on this evidence.
A daily check-in that takes 2 minutes is more powerful than a monthly date night if couples do it consistently. The ritual itself becomes a signal: you matter to me, every day.
Relove
Joey created Relove to bring the Heart-Head-Body method to couples everywhere. The app guides daily check-ins, tracks your relationship barometer over time, and offers exercises developed from her therapeutic practice.
It's designed for couples who want to stay close — not just fix problems when they arise.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Who is Joey Steur?
Joey Steur is a relationship therapist and the creator of the Heart-Head-Body daily check-in method. She built Relove to help couples stay connected through short daily rituals.
What is the Heart-Head-Body method?
A daily check-in framework that guides couples to reflect on three dimensions: emotions (Heart), thoughts (Head), and physical sensations (Body). Developed by Joey Steur for the Relove app.
What app did Joey Steur create?
Relove — a daily check-in app for couples on iOS. It uses the Heart-Head-Body method to help couples stay connected in 2-5 minutes per day.